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Learning may be painful, but, dammit, it's vital.
People seem to think that denying or ignoring uncomfortable stuff makes it not so. Well. That is not so, and being as how that is not so, actuality plays out without you. You are the victim of it. You have no participation in improving it. You might think it's best to leave this to others, but guess which others get control of your reality then.... C'mon, I know you can figure it out.
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You know, I was looking all over for my computer glasses while listening to that ibuprofen-inducing audio earlier, and it wasn't until sometime after snapping this image that I realized that streak of green up in my hair was not the camera, but my long-lost computer glasses....
Just thought you should know that....
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That was pretty interesting... for someone who has studied the ancients for decades, anyway. Sort of puts a fine point on why gaping at horse-faced girls with surgically altered sexual attributes and prurient shaves is such a bummer. It's only cosmic when there's love. Otherwise it is wiser, kinder, more spiritual to masturbate. But it isn't even sexual intercourse, really, in this sacred marriage business. It's merely about a kind of intimacy that transcends naked bodies, transcends The Battle of the Sexes, transcends time and space and the walking around world altogether. It requires a kind of truthfulness in which I am dirt certain very few of you have ever even dreamed of finding yourselves engaged. It gives the notions of respect and of trust whole new universes of meaning. It turns into what you call telepathy and you never even had to lay a finger on the other.
I have never in my life spent any length of time with a man who was remotely suspicious of my relations with other men. I have men friends with whom I visit, and stay overnight, sometimes even sharing a bed, and I never in all my completely outrageous amount of experience had a lover who was remotely suspicious of my faithfulness to him. I wouldn't have one. So many people think that possessiveness and jealousy is a sign of real love. It is a sign of real sickness and a terrible relationship that will only cause miseries of all sorts. Ask anyone engaged in one. Disregard the excuses.
And if you ever get to the kind of intimacy I'm talking about, you will heartily agree, it is radically better even than sex.
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And for math geeks....
See? I don't forget you.
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I realized that streak of green up in my hair was not the camera, but my long-lost computer glasses
ReplyDeleteYears ago I too was not able to find my glasses. Without them my range of focus extends to about 18".
As I roamed from room to room asking my roommates if they had seen them I became more agitated as they replied "no" with a certain tone that lead me to believe in fact they knew but were having fun watching me steam.
Finally I lost it and went into a fit at which point my glasses dropped down of the top of my head into place in front of my eyes, yielding a burst of hilarity from my roommates!
So many people think that possessiveness and jealousy is a sign of real love. It is a sign of real sickness and a terrible relationship that will only cause miseries of all sorts.
ReplyDeletePrecisely!
Prior to my first marriage I had many female friends. After I got married, my first wife became obsessively jealous of all of them. If she so much as saw me talking to one of them she would fly into a rage right in front of them and make life at home unbearable for weeks.
Consequently I stopped seeing all of those friends.
She saw herself as a standard-bearer for the Woman's Liberation movement.
In that capacity, in her twisted logic, her jealousy was sanctioned yet she had the right to fuck whomever and whenever she pleased. Something she did on a regular basis while I was at work trying to keep a roof over her head. Work - something she refused to do, being all liberated!
Over the first year or so most of my male friends also disappeared, banned by her for any number of reasons. After our divorce upon looking those old friends up I found out the true reason for their banishment was that they had refused her advances.
Those that were still coming around had succumbed to her. In the end I held no ill will to those few, she was the one initiating it, plying them with drugs and booze.
Then, after 35 years, I signed up at face book to view something Big Dan had placed there. Within two weeks I got an email from her, through face book, asking how I liked California.
ReplyDeleteKilled that face book account in about 7 seconds!
LOL - I did it again - made the quote a circular link instead of italic.
ReplyDeleteSheesh!
60 going on 90!
ReplyDeleteI just hate it when you do that! I was thinking, oh, goody, BB2 has a great link to the ultimate proof of rotten relationships... actually... I guess you did!
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LOL...
ReplyDeleteSorry!